Phyllis Valois is a licensed Spiritual Health Coach and Certified Angel Card Reader in Calgary, Alberta, Canada.
Phyllis is a gifted intuitive. She provides thoughtful guidance to help with personal problems, life transitions and situations that may be causing you pain or holding you back in your life. With a lifelong awareness of her intuitive gifts, Phyllis learned early on how to nurture these abilities to benefit others.
Phyllis' personal struggle with depression and suicidal thoughts started when she was a young child. She was brought to the brink of suicide several times. Her story inspires and gives hope for anyone battling depression.
As I reflect on my life, I realize that depression and anxiety have been a constant companion in one form or another since I was a young child. I often wonder why I had to experience this and what are the lessons that I need to learn from it. I was brought to the brink of suicide several times but something always held me back. I feel that because of my faith in Source and how this act would affect my parents, I just couldn’t go through with it. My father was ill from the time that I was 12 years old and I knew that it would be too difficult for him to deal with. I also felt that I had a life purpose that I was here to accomplish a mission as we all are. Whenever I got to the edge, there always seemed to be someone who would come into my life that would help pull me out. Other times, moves appeared because I wasn’t getting the help I needed where I was. Because of the work I now do, I realize that it wasn’t my time to exit and that my spirit guides and angels helped me in ways that were appropriate at the time.
One of the most powerful tools that have been helpful to me has been to talk about my anxiety disorder and depression. I found it helpful in my recovery to be open to this. By talking about my experiences, I discovered that my neighbor was experiencing the same things I was and that some of the nurses in my hometown hospital suffered from anxiety as well. I found that it opened a door and released some of my angst. Another tool that I used when necessary was journaling. It allowed me to release my feelings in a non-judgmental way. No one was allowed to read what I wrote unless I chose to share. Going into treatment with a certified Psychologist was probably the best thing I could have done. This allowed me to face and release the issues that needed releasing. I have been seeing a Psychologist for over 20 years off and on. There is no shame in seeking treatment. What I realized is that I definitely wasn’t the only one going through a difficult time. These experiences have helped me become the person I am and to be more compassionate and understanding of others and their challenges.
I know that many families have someone who experiences depression and the ultimate end, suicide. I lost a brother-in-law years ago because he couldn’t find his way out of both addiction and depression. I wish that I would have been able to help him but I came to the realization that it all comes down to free will and that every person has a path to follow with all the lessons that they have chosen to learn in this lifetime. It really is hard to watch someone self-destruct and be powerless to stop it. I also lost three classmates to suicide, one of them a beautiful woman who had such a wonderful spirit. She was the last person that I would have guessed suffered from depression. Many of us as great at hiding behind a wall so people see what we want them to not what’s really going on.
As a former teacher, I watched for children who displayed symptoms of depression. I always had extra time to spend with them and made sure that the Special Ed teachers or the principal knew what I observed. There are too many kids that suffer in silence and no one is aware of what’s going on. I was one of them. If things can be caught and dealt with at the beginning, many more children would be a lot happier and healthier for it. It disturbs me to no end when I hear of all the bullying cases. Bullying has been going on forever but with the advent of all the technology that we currently have, it is so scary to think of the access the bullies have today. It makes me extremely sad to think of what these children are going through. We all need to examine in more detail why the bullies are acting this way. What is their life like? I don’t believe that children are inherently bad but a product of their upbringing. What’s lacking in their lives that cause them to pick on other children?
I know that I will continue to experience both moments of anxiety and depression but now know the reason behind why this is happening and have the tools to deal with them as they occur. I wish you all the best on your journey through depression into a new and wonderful new existence.
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